"The more you know about the divorce process, the more you can make the right decisions moving forward."

-Armand & Robbin D'Alo

How New Tax Law May Increase A Divorce Settlement

Wednesday, September 5th, 2018

In mediation and other methods of non-litigated settlement processes, the goal is not for the mediator or neutral to remain solely as a referee.  This person may also offer information to the couple about their process.  This may be through providing legal or other information and what-if brainstorming sessions.  The idea is to generate awareness …read more >

Working Through Financial Stress in Marriage & Divorce

Wednesday, September 5th, 2018

Money: A Path to Trouble or Peace One of the common reasons cited by couples for divorce is financial stress.  They indicate things like too much debt, not enough income, someone not carrying their financial weight, overload of expectations not being met, and more.  Each one or any combination build towards financial stress in the …read more >

Money & Marriage: The Hard Conversations

Tuesday, July 31st, 2018

Myth:  Couples with financial conflicts should get a divorce. Reality:  Conflict is a part of every relationship.  The question as to staying or leaving is how a couple chooses to approach the differences. The financial conflict conversation is rarely about money.  The true conversation is about what money means.  One description of this mental process …read more >

Is There Still A Way to Preserve the Alimony Deduction?

Wednesday, June 27th, 2018

What Are The Options? The first reaction to this question is “No!”  But let’s dig a bit deeper into what options are open to the couple. Do You Have to Be Divorced by December 31, 2018? Possibly not.  Under code § 71, alimony and separate maintenance payments are prescribed as being deductible if, “such payment …read more >

Not All Marriages Can or Should Be Saved

Wednesday, June 27th, 2018

But When Is It Really Over? At Oak Tree Mediation, our One Last Look™ program helps couples see what divorce is about.  They gain clarity and confidence in their options.  That may be reconciliation, it may be divorce, or some other path forward. One of our first questions to couples looking at divorce is simple …read more >

If I Only Knew…

Tuesday, February 27th, 2018

Sometimes divorce is your best option.  But do you really know what is ahead?  Here are a few of the realities that people just do not realize are part of the process, until they are deep into it. Court Can Be A Cesspool of Contempt For You & Your Children: It is not the judge, …read more >

The First Critical Step Towards Divorce

Sunday, January 28th, 2018

We are always amazed at the number of articles with steps to take in divorce.  These include things like getting familiar with the finances, timing events around a bonus or stock options, watching texts and emails and many other tactics that lead to the ultimate conflict.  It is encouraging the culture of conflict. But we …read more >

UPDATE – 12-15-2017: Divorce: Alimony Gets a Short Reprieve … Then the Ax

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

New Information From the Tax Conference Committee According to the bill coming out of the conference committee, it appears the agreements that predate January 1, 2019 will remain deductible to the paying spouse and treated as income to the recipient spouse. After December 31, 2018, alimony would no longer be deductible by the payor for …read more >

Holiday Survival Guide for Divorce

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

Moving Forward This is a longer article that is worth the time.  We want to share these thoughts to help people going through tough times during the holidays.  There is also a great piece of information at the end of this blog that connects with a powerful Ted Talk on happiness that you will want …read more >

The Myth of Anger & Divorce

Wednesday, November 15th, 2017

When we tell couples that anger and frustration are a normal part of a relationship, they are typically surprised.  Research has shown that anger, by itself, is not a predictor of relationship trouble.  Anger is not good or bad; it is simply a fact of life.  This goes along with being irritable, sad, worried or …read more >