"The more you know about the divorce process, the more you can make the right decisions moving forward."

-Armand & Robbin D'Alo

All Mediation Is The Same… Or Is It?

Saturday, June 24th, 2017

Life has not gone the way you would like, and now you are faced with divorce. Maybe you wanted it, maybe not. In any case, it only takes one side to make a divorce happen. There are many paths for couples going through a separation. These include working it out themselves, using mediation, working in …read more >

The Power of Professional Vulnerability

Wednesday, May 24th, 2017

It is normal for people working through a divorce to feel guarded. The perceived lack of trust and commitment that has built over time makes it nearly impossible for one side to listen to the other. Couples at this point have most often been under a perpetual onslaught of criticism, distrust, and contempt. The most …read more >

Make Communication Work With F-A-C-C-T

Wednesday, April 26th, 2017

The third letter in our F-A- C-C- T overview is Communication. Sadly, when a couple is considering divorce, this is a time when they need to communicate with precision. However, for them there are feelings of emotional and economic betrayal, loss of trust, dependability, and honesty that all factor into this communication. As Caryl Rusbult …read more >

How Long Does a Divorce Take

Wednesday, April 26th, 2017

As with many questions we are asked, the question about how long it will take for a divorce has a typical answer — – “it depends.” Oddly this honest reply to the question rests with the people wanting the divorce. We always caution that the process will typically take longer than what the couple expects. …read more >

Not Everything Is What You Think It Is

Monday, March 27th, 2017

While support is determined for a couple, whether by themselves or a court, the property must also be taken into consideration. This includes things that are owned, as well as debts that are owed. First, looking at assets—the things owned—always take into consideration the tax aspects of property. The value of a stock is the …read more >

How Do Women Cope with Finances in Divorce?

Monday, March 13th, 2017

In 2012, the U.S. Government Accounting Office issued the results of a study that looked at how women fared as they approached retirement. The study showed that women were more likely to be financially disadvantaged than their male counterparts. “For women approaching or in retirement, becoming divorced, widowed or unemployed had detrimental effects on their …read more >

Protection for Children from The Process of Divorce

Tuesday, February 14th, 2017

Looking at the financial side of divorce, children can become the inadvertent or intentional focus of financial negotiations. They may also become the victims of negative arguments between adults in divorce. A child seeing a parent degrading the other parent can be devastating to that child. In the video “Split,” we see some children that …read more >

Family Does Not End with Divorce

Monday, February 6th, 2017

In our last divorce mediation article, we described a pattern that we’ve discovered which helps couples get through the divorce process successfully. The pattern, F-A-C-C-T®, is comprised of 5 parts. This month we are concentrating on the first element, Family Re-Formation. Getting divorced is tough. Couples who once shared dreams and hopes are hurt, angry, …read more >

The Real F-A-C-C-Ts of Divorce

Thursday, January 26th, 2017

Over our years as mediators, we have seen couples struggle with the emotional and financial aspects of divorce. Some couples survive the process relatively unscathed and successfully move on with their lives. Others continue to wallow in bitterness and anger which negatively affects their ability to heal. From our observations, we have noticed a pattern …read more >

Divorce Mediation 101: Impact of Laws on Divorce

Tuesday, January 24th, 2017

The way the rules are set tend to drive the way people behave. That is very apparent within divorce. The simplest way to state how this works is with the struggle over money and resources. Like in any war, there is an objective that one side of the relationship sees as worthy of the battle. …read more >