"The more you know about the divorce process, the more you can make the right decisions moving forward."

-Armand & Robbin D'Alo

If I Only Knew…

Tuesday, February 27th, 2018

Sometimes divorce is your best option.  But do you really know what is ahead?  Here are a few of the realities that people just do not realize are part of the process, until they are deep into it. Court Can Be A Cesspool of Contempt For You & Your Children: It is not the judge, …read more >

The First Critical Step Towards Divorce

Sunday, January 28th, 2018

We are always amazed at the number of articles with steps to take in divorce.  These include things like getting familiar with the finances, timing events around a bonus or stock options, watching texts and emails and many other tactics that lead to the ultimate conflict.  It is encouraging the culture of conflict. But we …read more >

UPDATE – 12-15-2017: Divorce: Alimony Gets a Short Reprieve … Then the Ax

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

New Information From the Tax Conference Committee According to the bill coming out of the conference committee, it appears the agreements that predate January 1, 2019 will remain deductible to the paying spouse and treated as income to the recipient spouse. After December 31, 2018, alimony would no longer be deductible by the payor for …read more >

Holiday Survival Guide for Divorce

Wednesday, December 13th, 2017

Moving Forward This is a longer article that is worth the time.  We want to share these thoughts to help people going through tough times during the holidays.  There is also a great piece of information at the end of this blog that connects with a powerful Ted Talk on happiness that you will want …read more >

The Myth of Anger & Divorce

Wednesday, November 15th, 2017

When we tell couples that anger and frustration are a normal part of a relationship, they are typically surprised.  Research has shown that anger, by itself, is not a predictor of relationship trouble.  Anger is not good or bad; it is simply a fact of life.  This goes along with being irritable, sad, worried or …read more >

Tax Reform: A Business Boom for Family Law Attorneys

Wednesday, November 15th, 2017

Under the House version of tax reform, there is a provision to repeal § 215 – Alimony payments.  That means that the payor will no longer be able to deduct their support payments.  It also means that the recipient will not be taxed on the income.  That sounds great for the recipient!  But the payor …read more >

Divorce and Marital Conflict: The Math, The Magic & The Reality

Saturday, October 28th, 2017

I am the kind of person that likes to get to the heart of a matter.  So here it is, in simple terms from the research of John Gottman. 69% Of All Marital Conflict Is Unsolvable People headed for divorce typically have the unsolvable problem.  Along the way the relationship got off track, there were …read more >

Divorce: The Dance of Breaking Up

Saturday, October 28th, 2017

There are many self-help and support groups for people in relationship trouble, going through divorce and after the divorce.  They offer support as people cope with changes in life.  These are all helpful tools.  Here is one additional tool that helps people along the way; the art of dancing. To dance, each person must get …read more >

Tax Relief During and After Divorce

Saturday, October 28th, 2017

One area of negotiations focuses on how to file a tax return during the divorce.  The discussion also focuses on how to handle refunds or tax liabilities on those filed returns. Refunds are potentially simple.  This is done by allocating the refund to separate bank accounts.  The allocation is based on many factors negotiated by …read more >

11 Facts About Divorce That Will Keep You Up At Night

Thursday, September 28th, 2017

Divorce: A Look Into The Future The focus of our One Last Look(SM) program is to educate couples and individuals about the process of divorce and separation as well as the realities of life after the divorce is granted.  The questions and situations we encounter spark interesting insights into what people think they know and …read more >